Not more than a month since we started our relationship, my girlfriend asked me if I wanted to join her on their trip to South Korea, scheduled the following year. To those of you who know all too well how I’m not really a fan of overseas excursions, you can easily guess what my reply to her was.
One fine afternoon, I was about to give the traditional Best Man’s toast at my friend Pong’s wedding. It was the 28th of January, 2012, and as I held my phone where I had written my speech, I still couldn’t shake the feeling of nervousness one has when he’s about to speak in front of an audience. It wasn’t the first time I’d be doing this, but this.. this was definitely something else. This was a monumental event.
I take a deep breath, and I start talking…
This morning when I woke up, the first thing that I see is the poster at the foot of my bed. Technically, it’s not even a bed, for I sleep on the sofa. But there, in front of me, is a picture of my parents on their wedding day. My mother had me print that when I was in college. It was a letter to her from my father, and the background was a picture of their wedding kiss.
Today, is my parents’ wedding anniversary. This marks their 45th year together. This may seem unusual or amusing to some that we still count the anniversaries, but six years after my father’s passing, and I can still feel their love for each other.
Minsan talaga, anuman ang gawin mong pag-iwas, darating at darating ka sa puntong makakaharap mo ang palaisipang mag-uudyok sa ‘yo para tumigil, at magnilay-nilay.
Matapos ang isang nakakabusog na almusal ng samu’t-saring ulam, kanin, at kakanin na nakalatag dun sa malaking mesa sa gitna, nagsibalikan na kami sa mga kanya-kanya naming pwesto, at pinagpatuloy ang mga bagay na kelangan naming gawin. Sa gitna ng paghihintay sa pag-usad ng oras, at ng mga makinang nasa harapan namin, samu’t-saring mga paksa ang aming napag-usapan.
Nawala sa isip ko kung paano nagsimula, at kung ano ang nag-udyok sa isa kong kaibigan para magtanong, pero bigla na lang nyang sinabi ang mga salitang ito:
“Bakit kaya tayo nagmamahal ng mga taong hindi tayo mahal?”
A friend of mine was having this dilemma of whether he should stay in his place of work, or move on to another career path. He had his share of reasons to stay and leave, with the leave option having the most shares. What was interesting, was the one reason that would make him stay: the girl that he’d like to see more of.
I’ve been looking back recently at past events and I couldn’t help but notice again how events keep repeating themselves, although they tend to change form with every reincarnation. It first starts with a chance meeting, followed by a shared moment that usually creates a profound impact on my whole being. Continue reading